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Christian Dating Advice: Should Christians Date Non-Christians?

Updated: Dec 2, 2021

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Should Christians date non-Christians?

Sometimes I hear people talking about how this is not a good idea. But then at other times I see Christians dating non-Christians and they say that it is a really good way to evangelize to their date. Of course their date will listen to them because they already like them enough to date them, right? No, it doesn't actually work out that way. Here in this video blog I explain why.

Basically when you link with someone romantically you loose your position of power that you have in Christ because there is tension created. This tension is because you are a Christian headed towards heaven and life with Christ Jesus and the non-Christian is headed towards the fires of hell. There has to be tension because you are pulling in opposite directions. It doesn't matter how much you like each other or love each other, that tension is there and one of two things is going to happen. Either the Christian will help pull that person towards God or the non-Christian will help pull the Christian down his path.

But why can't someone hope and have faith that their non-Christian date will be saved. You can! But by compromising and accepting them where they are at, you give up your position of power (and your effectiveness) to help them see the light. In the end, the decision is theirs whether they follow Christ or not. But if you love them simply as a friend and stay in your position of power (and not start any romantic relationship) then you will be much more effective. You will be an example to them of what a Christian is like who desires God above any other person.

Most of the people that I have met who have ended up marrying non-Christians, after a period of time, when they finally decided that they had to go for God with their dreams for their life that they have (e.g. a particular ministry) then the marriage has ended in divorce. It is my advice that believers should not date non-believers in the first place. The bible also says this.

"Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?" 2 Corinthians 6:14 (Authorized King James Version).

Stay in your position of power, in Christ, on the path where no-one is pulling you away from him and his ways. Christians should not date non-Christians. Love them and pray for them, but do not date them.

Lots of love from Ohroara :)

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